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How to get lucky

How to get lucky

Noah Revoy
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If you feel unlucky in love or would like to improve your chances of finding your ideal partner then this post is for you.

  • What role do you believe luck or chance plays in your love life?

  • How much control over your world do you think you have?

  • Can you change the chances of getting positive or negative outcomes in your life?

  • Can you manipulate luck?

Setting Boundaries and Emotional Chastity (Exercise and Worksheet included)

Setting Boundaries and Emotional Chastity (Exercise and Worksheet included)

Noah Revoy
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If you ever wondered how to answer personal questions while on a date this post is for you.

Healthy, strong relationships are built on a foundation of truth. Lies, manipulation and distraction destroy trust and prevent the possibility of building a happy future. Yet, it's not prudent to promiscuously share details about yourself with strangers. How can you draw the line? What is an acceptable level of sharing for various stages of a relationship?

Raise your SMV by understanding neuroticism in relationships

Raise your SMV by understanding neuroticism in relationships

Noah Revoy

If you experience anxiety about dating and marriage than this post is for you.

Even if you do not score high on the neuroticism scale this post will help you understand how to date someone who does.

Neuroticism is one of the Big Five higher-order personality traits in the study of psychology. People who score high on neuroticism are more likely than average to experience so called negative emotions such as anxiety, worry, fear, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, guilt, depressed mood, and loneliness. They are generally change and risk averse.

Male vs Female Dating Strategies

Male vs Female Dating Strategies

Noah Revoy

In an ideal world we would have a very well organized sexual market consisting of social systems that promote K-selected behaviour and the formation of stable marriages. We don't live in the ideal, so we must work with what we have. Failure is not an option.

Whatever dating and courtship strategies that we use must take into account the lack of a structured sexual marketplace. We will need to build our own structure and demonstrate far more autonomy than was previously required. That can be exhausting if we don't have a good strategy to facilitate our search.

A chaste courtship for K-selected people

A chaste courtship for K-selected people

Noah Revoy

We live in an age of conflicting messages on sex.

On one hand, women are encouraged to be “liberated;” to ride the cock carousel from puberty until they are in their mid thirties. News and entertainment propaganda advises women to “Sleep with 25 men before you marry”. College is seen as a time of sexual exploration where every depravity should be experimented with at least once.

Men too are encouraged to follow the example of PUAs (pick up artists) who spend their time “gaming” women into bed. Internet advertisements offer to teach you “that one trick that lets any man sleep with gorgeous women.” Monogamy is deemed a bad deal when you could be having sex with buxom, exotic beauties every weekend. 

Yet, when men and women follow the pressure to be promiscuous, they often end up unmarriable, broken, sad, hollow, sick, imprisoned, or dead. 

What is Dating and Courtship?

What is Dating and Courtship?

Noah Revoy

We have lots of sentimental, subjective ideas about romantic relationships. That's to be expected since the very act of falling in love tends to shut off our objective reasoning in a sea of happy, horney hormones.

Coordinating the seeming randomness of falling in love is a series of powerful social technologies that we call the Sexual Marketplace. Describing them that way might sound cold even mechanistic, however by thinking of dating and courtship as technologies can have a very positive impact on our romantic lives.